Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey guys,
I am going to be a bit candid here...so if you aren't that into "mature" content, best skip this thread for now.
I live on campus at my university and we are having a Halloween dance on Friday. Getting to and from the location will not be a problem, but I've never been to one of the dances before and I'm looking for advice from both guys and girls on how to cope.
Firstly, do you recommend I find one person to go with? Two? A large group of people? Or should I just show up alone?
Also, I am pretty sure there are going to be a large majority of drunk people there, as well as a lot of dirty dancing. I don't plan on drinking, but I haven't decided what dance moves I should do...should I just stick to like side-to-side moves, should I dance in groups, should I try to dirty dance? (Never done the latter before.) I really don't know any dance moves!
Okay, I'm all ears. Any advice on dances at college that you've been to?
onestly the type of dancing it really depends on you, and the image you want to portray. if you want to avoid a lot of unnecessary drama, and the drunk groping hands that are sure to be there, go with someone you really trust, or a group of friends you really trust. Definately keep your dance partners in mind when deciding how to dance. If you're dancing with someone who is drunk and who you don't know, then I highly recommend you remain onservative, lest you give them the wrong idea. If you really like someone you're dancing with, you might be okay with being a bit more free, but I really recommend being careul. Really though it comes down to your judgement of yourself, the immage you want to portray, and the people you're with.
Skip the dances, go strait to drinking votca from the bottle and doing keg stands. I'm not a big fan of school dances, I'd much rather go to a house party, the atmosphere is more chill and things don't feel like the university wants to force us to have fun.
Hi. I think this is a great question. First of all, do you have a few friends at your college who would like to go as well? For example, I went on a dinner/dance cruise that my fiance's college put on. It was going to take place in Boston harbor which is over an hour away from us. We wanted to go but was a little worried because it was our first school function. We asked my sister and her friend if they would like to go and they said they would. We are all visually impaired and felt that if we all went, it would be ok if we all got lost cause we'd be in a group. It turned out they had staff there which helped us board the bus and ship and told us what was in the buffet line. My sister's friend didn't end up going because she was afraid of not having a sighted person go with us which was very disappointing but we had a blast. We sat with these girls who were very friendly and was able to socialize and just be a part of the group. We danced and acted all crazy like the other college students. We were able to find our table if we wanted to take a break from the dancing and it was just one of the best experiences I've had in a while. So that is why I wondered if you had a few friends who was interested in going with you. At first, you will feel awkward but I think if you are determined to make friends or have fun, you will. I wish you the best and let us know how it goes!
Hey I am a visually impaired student, and dances are very fun for me.
I do agree that if u go with a large group of people, it's a lot more fun and u dont feel as awkward. As for dancing, dance how u want, there's no wrong moves trust me.
Groups can be a good security blanket though I often find I lose them as soon as I enter the dancefloor. Not a problem with me but being blind you'll probably be on your own dancing or maneuvering at several points during the party. No real art to dancing; a lot of people around here just kind of move back and forth a little bit. I can get pretty exuberent sometimes especially if I like the song. Just do what you feel. Drinking can take away some of the selfconsciousness but keep it in check if you choose to do so (if you drink more you won't necessarily feel better; if you/re feeling good revel in the moment).
Well there's no art to dancing anymore, anyway.
I've started occasionally going dancing in clubs on weekends, and trust me when I say I thought I'd never find myself enjoying the experience. You will inevitably lose the group of people you go with at some point, though it's nice to "roll deep" If you can. Dances are loud, obviously -- which might deter you from enjoying the night at first. the key is to drop your insecurities and inhibitions at the door If possible. Anything less and you may hate the night with a passion. I've been there.
I still have trouble figuring out what to do with my cane when I'm on the dancefloor. I usually just fold it up and jam it into my pocket. It's somewhat irritating but on a crowded floor in a noisy room I absolutely refuse to give it up completely.
Brice